By Roger Hughes | EMDR Therapist & Trauma-Informed Coach
19th December 2025
There’s a moment in The Sopranos that never left me. Season 3, Episode 4 — Employee of the Month. Dr Jennifer Melfi is attacked, raped, and left reeling. But what struck me wasn’t just the assault. It was what came after: the silence. The restraint. The knowledge that even with a mob boss as her client, even with access to brutal justice, she kept the line. Her internal world shattered. Her professional stance intact.
Why open with that scene? Because we’re living in a time where words like trauma, justice, and informed care are tossed around like they’re branding tools. For those of us who’ve worked with real trauma — nervous system trauma, not just narrative trauma — this isn’t conceptual. It’s daily. Clinical. Visceral. And it’s getting diluted.
Trauma wasn’t always a public word. In World War I, it was called shell shock. By WWII, it became battle fatigue. Then came Vietnam. Men came home with something invisible, constant, and corrosive. PTSD was officially named in 1980 by the American Psychiatric Association. It gave a frame. Legitimised what survivors already knew: something had broken inside, and it wasn’t weakness. It was injury.
In the decades that followed, trauma became an area of deep scientific interest. Researchers mapped the brain, the body, and the autonomic nervous system. Polyvagal theory emerged. The role of the vagus nerve. The impact of cortisol and adrenaline. The language of dysregulation, shutdown, hypervigilance. Books like The Body Keeps the Score made it mainstream.
In 2001, Maxine Harris and Roger Fallot coined the term trauma-informed care. It wasn’t meant to describe therapy. It was a systems model. A way to make services safer. A framework that encouraged organisations to avoid retraumatising the people they served. Later, SAMHSA built it into a structured approach with six key principles: safety, trustworthiness, peer support, collaboration, empowerment, and cultural awareness.
And then it became fashionable.
Today, everyone wants to be trauma-informed. It’s written into mission statements, staff handbooks, and LinkedIn bios. You can attend a half-day training, get a certificate, and add it to your brand. But here’s the problem: just because you’ve heard the word, doesn’t mean you know the weight of it.
Being trauma-informed isn’t just about knowing some theory. It’s not about learning the buzzwords. It’s about your presence. Your structure. Your nervous system. Your capacity to hold.
Real trauma work happens in the hard spaces. Collapse. Freeze. Shame. Fragmentation. It’s not clean. It’s not convenient. It’s dysregulation sitting across from you, looking for a way to not fall apart completely.
To stay grounded in that space requires internal scaffolding. Most clinicians aren’t trained for that. They’re trained to assess, refer, diagnose, prescribe. Some are taught to avoid triggering. To keep things surface. To manage risk, not hold pain. But trauma doesn’t sit quietly. It spills. It overwhelms. And if the clinician can’t tolerate that weight, they either shut down, dissociate, overfunction, or blame the client for being too “complex.”
Containment is a nervous system act, not a cognitive one. It’s how we sit. How we breathe. How we track. How we stay. And yes, it’s hard. There’s no glamour in sitting with someone who is weeping, frozen, panicking, or silent for 30 minutes. It’s not tidy. It’s not performative.
And let’s talk about burnout. Because real trauma work takes a toll.
Burnout among trauma clinicians is high. A 2024 study by Cook et al. found that over 35% of therapists delivering evidence-based trauma therapies met full criteria for burnout. Another review (Sprang et al., 2011) reported compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress rates at over 70% in some populations. Emotional exhaustion. Vicarious trauma. Chronic dysregulation. The work takes something from you.
And when clinicians burn out, client outcomes worsen. Presence drops. Responsiveness fades. The subtle tracking that allows co-regulation is lost. Sessions become scripted, tight, distant. And clients — especially trauma clients — feel it. They may not name it, but they feel the absence of attunement.
If your service is trauma-informed, it must be built to support the people delivering the work. That means supervision. Debrief. Case reflection. Smaller caseloads. Boundaries around session intensity. If those aren’t in place, it’s just a label. The system isn’t trauma-informed. It’s branding.
The truth? Trauma-informed care is a discipline. A craft. It’s nervous system literacy. It’s knowing how to recognise shutdown. How to spot sympathetic overdrive. How to help a client return to the room without using words. And yes, it takes time to learn. And yes, not everyone should be doing it.
This isn’t gatekeeping. It’s protecting the integrity of the work.
Because when a client sits in front of you in pieces, you can’t just quote theory at them. You can’t rattle off the window of tolerance. You have to be the window. You have to embody it. And you can’t do that if your own nervous system is fried.
I’ve worked in services that called themselves trauma-informed. Some were. Most weren’t. The phrase got thrown around a lot. Staff had done a course. Language changed. But structures didn’t. No supervision. No space to process. No reduction in caseload. No shift in power dynamics. Clients were still bounced between teams. Still re-assessed at every contact. Still retraumatised by the very systems claiming to help.
Trauma-informed care isn’t about kindness. It’s about precision. Predictability. Pacing. It’s about not pathologising dysregulation. It’s about seeing the freeze response not as defiance, but survival. It’s about pausing, not pushing.
And yes, it’s about language. But not just the words we use with clients. The words we use with ourselves. How we describe the work. How we train others. How we speak about those in collapse. With curiosity? With pity? With frustration? With steadiness?
When people say “trauma-informed,” I listen closely now. I want to know what they mean. What they’ve changed. What they track. If they’ve sat in rooms with real dissociation. With shame that won’t speak. With silence that isn’t peace but paralysis. Because that’s the work.
It’s not a mood. It’s not a style. It’s a standard.
We can’t afford to flatten it
Trauma and PTSD history & definitions (VA National Center for PTSD — overview of PTSD history and diagnosis)
🔗 https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/treat/essentials/history_ptsd.asp VA PTSD
PTSD overview and diagnostic context (NIMH — trauma reactions and PTSD basics)
🔗 https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd National Institute of Mental Health
Trauma‑informed care detailed guidance (SAMHSA TIP 57 PDF — behavioral health services)
🔗 https://library.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/sma15-4420.pdf library.samhsa.gov
Working definition of trauma‑informed practice (UK Government)
🔗 https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/working-definition-of-trauma-informed-practice/working-definition-of-trauma-informed-practice GOV.UK
Trauma‑informed care research & implementation summaries (HHS ASPE trauma‑informed approaches report)
🔗 https://aspe.hhs.gov/reports/trauma-informed-approaches-building-resilience-children-families aspe.hhs.gov
Trauma and PTSD general context (Wikipedia — post‑traumatic stress disorder)
🔗 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-traumatic_stress_disorder Wikipedia
Trauma trigger explanation (Wikipedia — what trauma triggers are)
🔗 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger Wikipedia
Shell shock (historical trauma term) (Wikipedia — historical term for combat trauma)
🔗 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shell_shock Wikipedia
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